Hey Annie, Do this when you begin to complain and spiral into self-pity: Remember God’s grace towards you in Christ - a love so great nothing can compare. Remember that He redeemed you despite your rebellion, he forgave your sins, he gave you the Holy Spirit and he gave you the promise of eternal life. Remember how God has blessed you immensely with a loving family (both actual and in Christ), best friend (whom I’m ever thankful for) and boyfriend. Remind yourself of God’s faithfulness in your life - how He’s worked in and grown you; the points He has challenged and spoken to you. Seek God, and ask Him to reveal to you how He is using your pain and suffering for His glory. Recognise that he will, even though it might take a while to realise how. Remember that this is not forever even though it seems like it will be for now. Open God’s word!