I needed a place to articulate and gather my thoughts before I relay them.
So, yesterday, Aidan said he loved me. I told him I loved him too (and I do, this is something I'd been tossing up saying for about a week or so). But I followed this up with a "do you think we're going too fast?"
Here are my thoughts:
1. I am concerned we're going too fast because it really hasn't been long since we started dating, and we didn't really know each other that well before we did start.
2. In the last 2 and a bit months of dating, I have been able to get to know Aidan really well because we've been forced to talk to each other. I've also seen him in different contexts, and know he is genuinely and extremely passionate about making sure Christ is at the centre of everything he does. He's also always passionate about others knowing Christ, which is really one of the reasons why I find him very attractive.
3. I'm wary and afraid of us jumping into decisions too quickly without giving it much thought. This is probably a baseless worry because we're both chronic overthinkers.
4. I'm unsure of where this relationship is going, and I don't know at what point it is wise to talk about marriage. I'm afraid of being vulnerable in uncertainty.
5. "Us going too fast" has been an issue that was raised from the beginning by several people around me.
6. I want our relationship to be one that seeks to glorify God, and display Jesus to each other. I want us to grow from this.
There are a lot of messy, disconnected thoughts here. :|
So, yesterday, Aidan said he loved me. I told him I loved him too (and I do, this is something I'd been tossing up saying for about a week or so). But I followed this up with a "do you think we're going too fast?"
Here are my thoughts:
1. I am concerned we're going too fast because it really hasn't been long since we started dating, and we didn't really know each other that well before we did start.
2. In the last 2 and a bit months of dating, I have been able to get to know Aidan really well because we've been forced to talk to each other. I've also seen him in different contexts, and know he is genuinely and extremely passionate about making sure Christ is at the centre of everything he does. He's also always passionate about others knowing Christ, which is really one of the reasons why I find him very attractive.
3. I'm wary and afraid of us jumping into decisions too quickly without giving it much thought. This is probably a baseless worry because we're both chronic overthinkers.
4. I'm unsure of where this relationship is going, and I don't know at what point it is wise to talk about marriage. I'm afraid of being vulnerable in uncertainty.
5. "Us going too fast" has been an issue that was raised from the beginning by several people around me.
6. I want our relationship to be one that seeks to glorify God, and display Jesus to each other. I want us to grow from this.
There are a lot of messy, disconnected thoughts here. :|
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